Too often you forget about enjoying the journey. Instead you’re trying to get that role or on the books with that agency. As soon as you don’t, you get really down, upset or even a little bit bitter especially when someone waters your seed of doubt.
It’s the industry we’re in folks; dog-eat-dog.
It’s discouraging when someone we trust or confide in goes behind our back or goes for a job we want. Or people slightly exaggerate the jobs they’ve done in order to appear superior to you.
Or worse than that, they badmouth you and/or indirectly write blogs about the way you are doing things.
Guess what? I’ve had all of the above. And continue to.
Over the years I’ve learnt that they’re only here to remind you and I: we’re doing it right.
They lack the talent that you have.
So let me tell you, you’re doin’ it dayyyummm right!
But…. doesn’t it get a little overwhelming? The more you succeed, the more naysayers you attract. Naturally, you believe them!
You don’t have to worry about the things they say because they project how they are feeling on the inside.
Think about it: When you are jealous/envious of someone else, they often have something you lack, something you passionately desire. i.e. perfect job, great relationships, amazing talent etc.
So…Remind yourself how lucky you are and how hard you have worked to be where you are now.
And never forget who helped you.
In fact, remember the people who have helped you and forget “Negative Nancy”
List all the people who have helped you get here today and thank them. Stand out as a respectful, gracious and generous actor.
List all the mentors, teachers, professionals who have nurtured and opened doors for you. Send a brief thank you note and wish them well without expecting anything in return. When you reach out to a person in a professional capacity make sure you address them with “Hello” or “Dear” followed by their name.
Has an actor moved or inspired you at a performance you watched? Has someone else won an award you wanted? You don’t have to know people to let them know how much they have inspired you. It’s not always about making connections or receiving a reply but it’s about letting an artist know how much their work meant to you.
Return calls and emails:
Never ignore an email or call. It will come back to bite you when you are in need of a favour. Good manners will benefit and forge a career path you would have never expected.
And above all else, don’t forget to be nice to you. We’re so used to the internet where things happen at a click of a button and we forget things take time. Treat yourself and thank yourself for following your dream. Not everyone does. Be gracious, be respectful and be very very grateful to you.
It’s challenging. It’s a rollercoaster. I understand what you are all going through hence the reason why I built this website.
So let’s hit refresh button on our own mind, body and spirit. Just like you would on a web browser.
Just like *that* you can remember: you’re doing it dayyyum right!
As always, I love hearing from you! Write in the comments section below what helps you overcome negative comments, critics and naysayers!
Tons of love and appreciation,